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When We Lie…
The harm it does us, one lie at a time.
It starts small. Testing the waters, whether we can do it, and how it’s received by the other.
It’s ‘Nothing’ we say, “Just didn’t want to have to explain it all to them.” We can tell ourselves it was a matter of convenience, lack of time, just avoidance.
On the other end of those lies is a person who’s shaping their world, out of the information they receive.
When we lie to another, we are literally depriving them of their sense of reality. Their grasp of the world is no longer the truth as most see it. We have screwed with what they believe to be their understanding of the world they live in.
It’s not nice!… Well, it’s worse than that. We are the thief, and we’re looking to go unnoticed, while we steal their sense of the world.
Of course, the poor ‘lied-to’, after a long pattern of lies, go through some mental acrobatics to try to sustain the lies. They want to believe — After all, not believing would bring huge consequences to the relationship, and there’d need to be action taken. Actions they want to avoid.
And sometimes, by trying so hard to believe the lies, they’ve become complicit along the way. Otherwise, their belief system would be shattered.
