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How to Handle Difficult People In Our Lives
You can’t change them, no matter what you do…
How many years have some of you tried to change parents’ ways, friends’ attitudes, or that boss’s behavior to no avail?
Expecting a dramatic shift in their behaviors or attitudes is very rarely achieved by our words. The reality is that many of them simply do not want to change, see nothing wrong with their actions, or simply couldn’t change even if they wanted to.
Some of you have known this for years. But that hasn’t prevented you from once again leaping into battle, trying to eke some small, winnable resolve. Just this once…
But If you look at your history of success in this approach, everything would imply this is a fool’s errand. After all, how many years have been spent looking for ‘minor attitude adjustments’ along the way. Just something that feels like movement on their end.
Expecting this behavior change may simply be something that’s plainly unrealistic from all the evidence…
Has your complaining, observing, helpfully coercing ever had a lasting impact on anyone’s long term behavior?
If you can point to several people whose lives you have changed, then please continue. One person at a time, you may yet attain world peace.
